Unfortunately, in today’s western society, most people have a passive approach to medical help. It is so common for patients to naturally believe what their doctor says because they have a degree or are qualified to do their job. However, doctors are humans too and are, therefore, not perfect. In fact, they can make just as many mistakes as anyone else.
A perfect example I’d like to use regarding this issue is someone who got into a serious accident that left them with damaged legs. After the checkup, the doctor says that they’ll forever use a wheelchair and will never walk again. As a result, that person will most likely believe them. Because it came from a doctor and they’re supposed to be the expert, you can’t really help but, naturally, believe what they say.
But I’m here to tell you that, although you should respect what medical professionals have to share- you should never give up on hope. No matter how little hope there is, by clinging onto it, you are moving yourself away from a life filled with depression and disappointments. And, for someone who has been there and got to where I am now. It is definitely a life that’s worth fighting for.
How My Accident is an Example of Turning “Can’t” into “Can”
Accidents are common in life, and no one is exempted from them. However, not everyone goes through a severe accident that would leave them with brain trauma. Sadly, I was one of those unlucky individuals.
When I was 16 years old, I got into a hit-and-run motorbike collision with a car. But this wasn’t your average car incident because I ended up clinically dead three times and left in a coma for three weeks. If that wasn’t bad enough, my brain injury was so bad that my prognoses were expected death or vegetative state for life. So as you can imagine, I was in the worse state possible due to that one-time accident.
I did not let my vegetative state destroy my hope
Unlike most people who would give up at this point, especially with all the doctors telling you that there is no hope for an average lifestyle, I was too stubborn to give in. I was so determined that it would be safe to say that most of my pain through my physical treatments was from mentally pushing myself not to give up.
Through this whole mental determination and physical exertion, I realized that I was capable of more than I ever thought. I was finally able to discover my body’s physical limits and mental potential. That’s how I became a best-selling author and worked as a rehabilitation counselor. I want people to know that there is hope if you just believe in yourself and keep trying.
What you believe is what you become
This phrase of becoming what you believe in is so accurate. After all, your thoughts lead to actions. So if you think you can’t, then you’re actions – or lack thereof will represent that thought.
Everything, all our decisions and actions, begins with a thought. If you were to look at my case, I truly believed that I could get better despite what everyone else around me was saying. Therefore, I started doing things that would lead to improvement. I had to learn how to walk again, among other basic and simple movements. However, I kept moving forward because that was what I believed.
So be very careful what you believe in and who you allow to influence you in your life. Otherwise, you might end up becoming what you’ll deeply regret later on or, worse, miss out on precious personal development opportunities.
3 Things That Can Turn Your “Can’t” Into “Can”
Looking at how I am now, especially with my credentials as a best-selling author and rehabilitation counselor, you would not think twice that I was ever in a vegetative state and suffered a traumatic brain incident. But I did, and I moved forward from it. However, I can guarantee you that my progression was not easy. That’s why I want to share a few tips that can help you to turn your “can’ts” into “cans.”
- Figure out the source of the “can’t”
The first thing that you want to do is find out why you believe that you can’t. Try to think about the reason why you believe that you can’t do or achieve something. Is the reason because the doctor said so? Is it because family members and friends have given up on your progress?
Ask yourself these questions so that you can find the root of your can’ts. Once you do, you can begin to realize that all along, it was just fear of pressure or doubt in yourself that is stopping you from trying.
- Be with people who support you
Positivity builds positivity. That’s why people like to hang around with happy people because this happiness rubs off on them. So by choosing doctors or health professionals that support your decisions or believe in your improvement, you can have the courage and inspiration to move forward.
- Don’t settle for less
This tip might be more common in the commerce industry, but I love the idea of it. Basically, if you settle for what little improvement you’ve made, then you could be missing out on more progress if you kept going. So always push your limits and test your boundaries. This method was one of the ways that helped me to discover my true strength and potential for a quality of life.
In life, it is common for things not to go your way. But this does not mean that you can’t have your way. If you dig deep enough, you will always find a way. It might not be the result you’re looking for, but you will no doubt be surprised at your capability. That is what I share with my books, as well to those whom I counsel. Even if you suffer or have suffered from a brain trauma, which is a severe condition, you can still have a great quality of life – if you just believe.
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